Michael E. Metz, Ph.D.

Clinical Philosophy and Values

 

            One of the crucial features for positive, productive experiences in therapy is a comfortable rapport or “fit” of the person(s) in therapy and the therapist. This brief summary is intended to describe some of the fundamental values that guide my clinical intent and efforts. Please discuss with me any concerns that may arise in our work together.

  • I value a tranquil, comfortable, peaceful clinical environment for thoughtful exploration.  I believe this is helpful for growth and change.
  • I value your improving by our work – in understanding, feelings and actions. Expect to be encouraged -- even “challenged” --  to reflect and consider change.
  • I value the importance of awareness of your cognitions (i.e., “perception,” “reason,” “logic”, “beliefs,” “expectations”), emotions (i.e., “feelings,” “emotional acceptance” rather than judgment, the need for “emotional regulation,” “empathy,” and ”relationship intimacy”), and behaviors (i.e., “interactions,” “relationship skills,” balance of autonomy and cohesion, cooperation).
  • In regard to couple and family therapy, I value relationship commitment in a positive way. If you are in a committed relationship, I value your relationship and believe that it warrants attention, priority, and your investment and dedication to address issues with strong intent to improve.
  • I value relationship fairness and cooperation, and do not view partners as “good guys” or “bad guys.” Inevitably, each partner in a distressed relationship hurts deeply – whether or not this is transparent, and plays a role in the distress and negative behaviors. My view is that relationships involve a “dance” of mutual interactions, and it takes two people to progress as an “intimate team.”
  • I value the importance of emotional intimacy in a satisfying committed relationship.  Partners may differ in the depth of their longing for empathy and cohesion but it is important.
  • I value the importance of sexual intimacy in a satisfying, committed relationship. Healthy sexual relationships involve realistic expectations and cooperation, mutual sexual pleasure, satisfaction, and cohesion.

Please visit my profile listings on:

The National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists.

American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT). Association for Behavioral & Cognitive Therapy (ABCT).

Society for Sex Therapy & Research (SSTAR).

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