Books by Michael E. Metz, Ph.D.
Men's Sexual Health -- Coping with ED -- Coping with PE
Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex
This is a book for men, women, couples, parents, teachers, clergy, and others interested in positive sexual health and satisfaction.
This book explains healthy male sexuality, written by, for and about men. It presents the best scientific, accurate knowledge -- without "hype" and distortion. It is written for men and their partners --> to help them understand and cooperate sexually around healthy practices. It is also valuable for parents, teachers, psychologists, marital and family therapists, clergy, physicians and others working with young men, adult men, and older men.
Routledge publisher Dr. George Zimmer (left) and Dr. Michael Metz (right) promoting the new book, Men's Sexual Health, at the Smart Marriages marital and family therapy conference, Denver, June, 2007.
Men's Sexual Health is organized around positive, realistic, and healthy thinking about male sexuality over the life-cycle, 15 "facts" for men's sexual self-confidence, understanding how men learn about sex, the best scientific data about sexuality as boys and girls, men's and women's sexual growth experiences, as well as the importance of partner sexual cooperation with features such as the 5 "purposes" for sex, 3 basic sexual "arousal styles", the importance of pleasure as well as sexual performance, the variety of common sexual preferences and practices, and awareness and enhancement of individual and couple sexuality.
Chapters include positive and healthy thinking about men's sexuality; boys-to-men development; similarities and differences of men and women; the "ten things" men need to learn for sexual health; the importance of integrating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors; understanding and dealing with sexual problems; the "Good-Enough Couple Sex" model encouraging couples to blend as an "intimate team"; and lifelong healthy sexuality. A multidimensional model for a comprehensive understanding of sexual health and sexual problems is grounded on current biological, psychological, medical, and relationship research and is discussed in terms appropriate for the general reader.
Chapters:
1.
The Truth about Sex.
2:
Healthy Thinking about Male Sexuality: What You Need to Know and Learn.
3:
Boys to Men: What is Normal & Healthy.
4:
Vive le différence: His Sexuality, Her Sexuality.
5.
The Mantra of Healthy Sexuality: Intimacy, Pleasuring, Eroticism, and Satisfaction.
6.
"Good Enough" Male and Couple Sexuality.
7.
Fitness, Physical Well-Being, and Sexual Function.
8.
Lifelong Healthy Sexuality: You are a Sexual Man Until You Die.
9.
Dealing with Sexual and Health Problems.
10.
Valuing an Intimate, Erotic Sexual Life
11.
Epilogue: The Nuts and Bolts for Your Sexual Health.
REVIEWS:
"McCarthy and Metz have come as close as anyone I have ever seen to finding the vague and elusive happy medium of male sexuality. They have carefully and skillfully walked the tightrope between the demands of traditional machismo and the quest for male emotional intuition and sensitivity....Men's Sexual Health is as much at home at the Super Bowl party as it is on Oprah's coffee table."
--> Mark O. Bigler, in PsycCritques
"Tired of ‘same old/same old’ when it comes to information about men and sexuality? This is not your father’s sex ed book. Metz and McCarthy just moved to the #1 spot on my list of favorite ‘talk about sex’ books. Best book about men and sex in a decade. They’re well researched, but never dull, with a candid no-nonsense style. A kind of smart talk about sex that you’d expect to find from a couple of guys who’ve spent all their time as top-of-their-field sex therapists and sex experts. I not only like how they talk about men’s sexuality, I like how they talk about women’s sexuality and making sex win-win for both. Knowing that good sex is at the core of a good relationship, they tell you how to be an intimate team with your lover. There are couples whose sex lives are never dull, couples who know that sex makes them closer and more intimate. And there are men who know how to make that happen. Meet Metz and McCarthy. This book will change the pleasure quotient in your life."
---> Sallie Foley, co-author of Sex Matters for Women, University of Michigan.
"In Men’s Sexual Health, respected clinicians McCarthy and Metz offer men a positive and holistic understanding of a man’s sexual self. The authors view male sexuality as going beyond the common emphasis on mere performance and pass-fail sex. Men’s Sexual Health tells men the truth about what it takes to enjoy healthy, pleasurable and satisfying sex. The message is that lasting sexual fulfillment requires an integration of understanding sexual biology, emotions, and partner relationships. The essential ingredients of long term sexual satisfaction include intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism. The authors remind us that not every sexual encounter need be perfect. Men’s Sexual Health delivers a realistic message that is so essential for the sexual well being of men today. In this book, Drs. McCarthy and Metz have hit another home run."
---> Julian Slowinski, Psy.D., ABPP, clinical assistant professor, Department of Psychiatry, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine, AASECT Diplomate Sex Therapist, and co-author of The Sexual Male and The Good Sex Guide .
“Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy are respected researchers and outstanding clinicians. They have contributed much to what we know today about male sexuality.”
---> Paul Joannides, author of Guide To Getting It On!
“Women, buy this book! Obviously for the man in your life—after all, its goal is to help him achieve ‘a life-long, intimate, erotic sex life’—but, also to read it yourself. Its straightforward, by-men-for-men approach will give you an inside track, and help you know him, and therefore, love him even better.”
---> Diane Sollee, MSW, founder and director of smartmarriages.com
"McCarthy and Metz's latest book, Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex, is just plain terrific!!! It presents new information, cogent observations and sensible suggestions that will enrich and enlighten the sexual life and comfort of every man (and his partner). Truly, this is the best book on men's sexual health to come along in decades. I am recommending it to all of my patients!"
---> Sandra R. Leiblum, Ph.D., Professor of Psychiatry and Director, Center for Sexual and Relationship Health, Robert Wood Johnson Medical School.
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Coping With Erectile Dysfunction was awarded the 2007 SSTAR book award by the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.
"Continuing the momentum of their revolutionary book, Coping with Premature Ejaculation, Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy, two of the nation's most respected sex therapists, bring you the only complete self-help resource on the market for men dealing with erectile dysfunction. Not only is this book the first to address this problem using the most current research into male sexuality, but it is the first to propose a treatment approach that unites medical, psychological, and relationship-enhancing techniques into a cooperative process that couples can work through together. The book begins with an uncomplicated explanation of ED and a discussion of the mythologies that surround much of male sexuality. After describing the integrated treatment approach, the book helps men develop a set of realistic sexual expectations for each phase of their lives and explores the role of their partners in resolving ED problems. Exercises help men assess the nature of their problems. The results of the assessments lead readers to explore medical, psychological, and couples-related interventions. The book closes with a detailed program for relapse prevention. Ultimately, the Metz-McCarthy approach encourages couples to explore their own sexual intimacy as a means of overcoming the problem."
From the Publisher
With a therapeutically integrated technique and a unique couple-centered approach, two of America's most prominent sex therapists offer men and their partners the most effective solutions available to overcome erectile dysfunction. According to the National Institutes of Health, between 15 and 30 million American men experience chronic erectile dysfunction. This is the only book on the market that addresses the biological, social, and psychological causes of ED, as well as offering a comprehensive treatment plan that includes a relapse prevention program. This book is written by leading sexologist, Michael Metz, and Barry McCarthy, author of the best-selling book, Sexual Awareness.This is one of the only books on this subject that encourages couples to work together to overcome the problem.
Translations: Italian, Korean, Turkish, and Vietamese languages.
Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex
Explore a multidimensional, bio-psychological approach to dealing with this problem and strengthening your sexual relationship. Explode the myths of male sexual performance and analyze male sexual desire. Learn about th
e different types of premature ejaculation and use assessment exercises to find out which you suffer from. Then, follow one of the structured, symptom-specific treatment strategies based on psychological, relational, and physiological techniques. Find out ways to prevent relapse. Enhance and improve your overall sexual relationship.
Designed as a
resource for couples, this book is powerful tool for creating support and positive change in your relationship.
From the Publisher
This book contains the latest, scientifically-based, multidimensional methods for overcoming all types of premature ejaculation and includes a complete relapse prevention program.
Translations: Italian, Korean, Turkish, and Vietamese languages.
Manual for the Styles of Conflict Inventory